Telling lies is a sin and we are all aware of this simple fact. But sometimes it’s so had not to lie. At least everyone in the whole world has told a lie before.
But what would you do if your own kid is a liar?
Here are 9 mistakes you should avoid to stop your beloved child from lying.
9. Kids know the consequences.
Children are very smart – they know that telling the truth will only yield punishment. So try to encourage your child to always tell the truth by giving them a light punishment that they will not fear but will make them realize their mistake.
8. Kids don’t want to upset you.
Despite the fact that they become naughty at times, kids love their parents too much to upset them. So don’t put on a gloomy face the next time they tell you the truth, they will be more willing to be open to you and tell you truthful information.
7. They don’t lie but fantasize.
Sometimes kids are caught up in their own imagination. They tell you everything about their awesome adventures and imaginary stories. Be understanding and softer to such lies because they disappear in the flow of time when kids grow older.
6. Kids tell lies because they don’t remember.
There are situations where kids will forget they are telling a lie and even start believing it themselves. This especially concerns children who might forget about some mischief.
Don’t take such lies to seriously. Try to be patient in explaining your reaction to the kid’s action.
5. They think that lying is polite.
Sometimes kids think that lying is right: they will gladly accept a present like granny’s knitted socks, even though deep inside they are very disappointed by such a present.
It’s up to you to decide whether you want your child to behave another way. After all, we all do the same thing.
4. We are programming the right answer.
Kids are always waiting for the exact answer, so instead of asking them if they are enjoying what they are eating – when you clearly know they don’t like it, just ask them what they want to eat and serve them that.
3. Kids are afraid of changing roles.
Every kid wants to be known as a good boy or girl. They are afraid to tell the truth because they think that villains from fairy tales behave like this. So if they tell the truth, they believe they turn into those villains.
Explain to them that good people make mistakes too. What sets them apart from the “bad guys” is their ability to take responsibility for their actions.
2. We tell lies ourselves.
A kid copies his parents in everything. If a child lives in an environment where people lie all the time, he’s bound to be a liar too.
The solution is simple, you just need to become more honest yourself.
1. Kids think they are too silly.
Kids are very smart creatures, but if you treat them as dumb, while shouting at them and blaming them for every small thing, they will not want to learn what is good and what is right, or even telling the truth.
Don’t talk to your kids like little children, instead talk to them as if they are adults. Clearly explain to them what’s right and wrong without making them feel guilty. By doing so, they will have a desire to grow up and will more likely realize the importance of telling the truth.